Not
long ago, immigrants were required by law to complete tons of paperwork, provide
evidence of their health, of their ability to provide for themselves financially,
allegiance to our country, interest in becoming Americans, and making our
country better. Today these requirements have all but disappeared in the social
justice drivel permeating our third world society and leftist government rule.
Immigrants
still say that they come to the land of opportunity for freedom but freedom has
become illusory as American citizens hear their chains of imaginary freedom
rattling every day, ever more loudly, coming from a government out of control.
What immigrants
really come for is generous welfare and the hope that they can bring their
entire extended families with them. Having left the failed system of socialist
governments and tyrannies behind, they come to a place where they have no
understanding of this new and fabulously “rich” country. They have no history
of democracy in their own countries, it is a totally alien concept. They only
understand government dependency and control of their daily lives.
But a
small group of foreign nationals with a 90 day fiancé visa come because they
have fallen in love online with American citizens who were lucky enough to have
been born in the most successful constitutional republic on the planet.
Money grew
on trees in America once upon a time, but the trees have withered and died
under the weight of constant money printing (quantitative easing), and the luster
has tarnished on the famous city on the hill, now a fortress guarded by
thousands of heavily armed soldiers and razor wire. As the constitutional republic
has vanished after the disastrous 2020 election and year-long economic lockdown,
the foreign newcomers will be sadly disappointed.
The
people of the highly successful show “90 Day Fiancé” come on a special fiancé visa
for an imaginary freedom and prosperity provided by a quick marriage to a
lonely American for whom matrimony had been difficult to attain. But technology,
dating sites, and the Internet are providing access to other “lonely” people
from the most remote corners of the world.
The “freedom”
they seek in wealthy America no longer exists but immigrants don’t know that
because nobody truly understands economics and government and they are still
wearing the rose-colored glasses of the land of plenty, a world painted by
Hollywood craftily on celluloid. Immigrants are still coming for the economic
prosperity they have seen in movies, movies that bear no resemblance to
reality.
Making
the audience feel better about themselves, the “90 Day Fiancé” reality show is
entertaining to American viewers who have no appreciation or understanding of where
these people came from and why, their feelings, values, their tragedies, and religious
and marital customs. The fiancés seem narcissistic, materialistic, selfish, greedy,
insulting, unappreciative, and braggadocious.
The engagement
situations and the drama appear contrived, the dialogues are bizarre at times,
and the comedic “reality” moments are very uncomfortable to watch but the
emotions are real and so are the vast cultural differences.
Ordinary
middle class Americans find themselves in situations where they have to pay for
expensive dowries they can hardly afford, in cultures where a buffalo, a cow, sheep,
goats, or gold jewelry make all the difference in the world to the parents of
the future bride who must survive in subsistence economies and dismal poverty.
It is an expression of appreciation and respect for their daughter whom they
raised to the age of matrimony and for their standing in the community. Some
are required to summarily convert to another religion or be baptized in order
to get married.
Americans
abroad offend their intended’s families because their lives are so different
from our life in America. At the same time, the foreign fiancés insult the
loved ones of those they want to marry in America because of their ignorance and
misconceptions.
The
foreigners are scared, miss their families, do not like the food, do not
understand the fine nuances of language, or the American English idiomatic
expressions, often resulting in comedic situations for the viewers.
The
prospective fiancés become easily insulted and hurt, feeling disrespected and
dishonored. They reject the new environment, the culture, the food, the
practices, the sounds, the wardrobe, and the way people do things that are so drastically
different from those where they grew up.
The
immigrant fiancés don’t miss their poverty but they sure miss their countries,
their culture, and their immediate families and friends.
They
want instant wealth, the proverbial money that grows on trees in America where
the streets are paved with gold, but they want to bring their old country, language,
their enclave of comfort, their familiar surroundings with them, creating a
small homeland within America.
They
feel lonely, abandoned, and lash out at their American fiancé who does not seem
to understand their feelings, thoughts, and emotions of relinquishing their
former lives and everything they ever knew and loved.
Then a
few women become pregnant which complicates and aggravates the process of melding
two lives from such uniquely different cultures and languages. Adding the
substantial age difference in some cases, cause the problems to compound.
Despite
the obvious discomfort and pain of real people, American viewers keep watching
because the show makes them feel better about themselves. Everybody loves a
good and happy ending of a joyful reunion preceded by strife, deceit, terrible misunderstandings,
and tears of disappointment.
